5 Tips For Meeting Women As A Single Guy

As someone who has been single for most of my adult life, I have had a lot of female encounters. Over the years I have bounced around to different jobs, locations, colleges, and neighborhoods, and have met too many different women to count.

Here are a few tips from what I have picked up on over the years.

#1 Start Close To Home

The most successful interactions I have had have all come within a close proximity to where I live. On one occasion I actually met a girl who lived right next door in my apartment complex. On other occasions I have met girls who live a few blocks down or live in the next neighborhood over.

Take walks nearby your house. Go to the local park in your area. Become active in your community. The more close you are to where you live, the greater chance you have of crossing paths with the other person on a frequent basis. As they see you more, they may become more fond of you.

If you happen to live in an area that just doesn’t suit what you are looking for in a relationship partner, then go to the next nearest location.

#2 Be Friendly But Not Pushy

Walking across the room to ask a girl for her phone number may make for a fun social experiment, but in most cases it’s not going to be very fruitful. Most of the time you are just setting yourself up for unnecessary rejection.

They say that if you truly want to meet somebody, you should aim to interact with as many women as possible. That doesn’t necessarily mean walking up and asking 100 different women out on a date until one of them says yes. But, if you go out and genuinely talk with 100 different people, eventually you will catch one at the right place and at the right time, and be able to put together the right words.

Be natural in how you approach this. Give compliments, ask questions, and provide friendly gestures, but don’t look to get anything in particular out of it. Do it because it feels good for both yourself and the other person, regardless of whether or not it turns into anything more than just a friendly encounter.

#3 Be Open And Flexible

The way I see it, any woman that is willing to show interest in me and give me a shot is a woman I would consider as being lucky to have. Be open as you meet new people, but also realize that not every person is going to be the right fit, and that is okay.

Don’t get too rigid about only wanting a specific type of person. It’s okay to have general preferences, and things in particular you are looking for, but don’t close yourself off if something else arises.

It could be someone that is older, or younger than you thought you might match with, or maybe even someone that is taller or of a different ethnic background.

#4 Don’t Get Too Bent Out Of Shape If It Doesn’t Work Out

My father will always remind me that the person you pick to be your life partner is the most important decision you will ever make. If you meet someone and it doesn’t work out, realize that it is okay. It is better to have it not work out than get hooked up with the wrong person and miss out on what could have been.

As someone who has been turned down many times, this is something that I understand well. Instead of getting upset about it I put myself in the other person’s shoes and recognize that they did what they felt was best for them. I appreciate the encounter for what it was and realize that they will likely do the same. Chances are one day when they are old and gray they will look back and smile about the times where young men used to actually show interest in them.

In some cases, the person may actually come back around. Even if not to be in a relationship with you, just to let you know that they appreciate the way you treated them and that they think you are a good person.

#5 Don’t Beat Around The Bush

If you are interested in someone, be disciplined about the way you approach them and don’t procrastinate. If a girl is showing interest in you today, don’t wait until tomorrow or next week to do something about it.

When a girl says “come over tonight” you’d better get yourself down there that night. Or don’t, but realize you may be letting the person go by doing that. If you’re not really that interested, that might be the right move.

Don’t rush or force things, and look at it like basketball. If the defender is giving you an open shot, put the shot up while you have a clean look rather than trying to force up a bad shot at the buzzer.

Thank You For Reading

Thank you for taking the time to read. I hope that you have enjoyed this article and have taken away things that will benefit your own dating life. Have a great rest of your day, and I will see you on the next article.