Dealing With Pressure
Dealing with pressure is not only a part of being a young adult, but a part of being a human in general. Long before the days of the internet, humans still received just as much (if not more) pressure than young adults do today. However, with the rise of things like social media, it seems as though the pressure comes from a lot of different angles.
Young adults today not only have the pressure of managing “traditional” expectations such as buying a home, starting a family, having a good job, and having nice things, but also have to navigate newfound areas such as being popular on social media, having a successful online presence, and so on.
In this article I want to take a deeper look at the best ways to navigate these pressures, and how to block out unwanted scrutiny from others.
Living In A Rush
Unfortunately, there are some people out there that are not very happy with themselves. They have deep regrets for slip ups from the past. They hold resentments against others for their own mistakes. When you are the young guy on the grind, it seems as though all these people come out of the woodwork to start looking over your shoulder.
Some of it is wanting to live through your accomplishments, and use “you” as a way to make up for their inner lack. Some of it is wanting to tear you down in an attempt to build themselves “up”. As crazy as it sounds, this is the way some people live on an almost daily basis. Prioritizing others above themselves, and using negativity as a source of inner fuel to keep themselves going.
If you’re not careful, it can be very easy to take some of this energy on and let it infiltrate your daily processes. You might find yourself living in more of a rush. Partially to get some of these people off of your back, and partially just to elevate yourself into a position where you can get away from it altogether.
Slowing it Down
When you start taking your attention off of the results, off of the desires, and off of the nonsense, that’s when things really start clicking. People can hate on you, criticize you, and look over your shoulder all they want, but to you, it’s barely even noticeable. You’re so involved in what you’re doing that it doesn’t even hit your radar.
This is a far cry from how things may look on the other side. Folks spend their time pacing around, running in place, and sitting idly, and this is a big reason why it’s so easy for them to latch on to others like that. They have nothing better going on anyways.
Lowering Expectations
When you lower your expectations and stop trying so hard to fulfill the standards of others, you put yourself in a position to be much more satisfied. People may have certain markers of what is going to deem you worthy and successful in their eyes, but to you, it doesn’t really matter. To you, the personal growth is more rewarding.
As we move forward in time, I hope that more people can realize this. The less you depend on others for validation, gratification, and approval, the more space and freedom you give yourself to feel truly successful. The less you compare yourself and worry about others, the more you’re going to be able to not only enjoy yourself, but enjoy others as well.
Life is a lot more fun when you’re not always in a rush. On the flip side of sitting idly, passively, and lethargically, some people are so concerned with cranking out the “next thing” that they barely have time to slow down and appreciate what they have. They push forward so aggressively and grimly that before they know it 40 years has passed by. They had their head down for so long that they never bothered to stop, take a breath, and look around.
Going With The Flow
When you take consistent positive steps and actions, good things are bound to flow into your life eventually. And when they do, they will come at a time when you’re ready to enjoy and appreciate them fully. When you put the right energy into things on the level of the present, that positive energy typically comes back around to greet you on the other side.
When you try too hard to jump the gun, cut corners, and take shortcuts, even if you do get what you thought you wanted, it won’t satisfy you. At least not for very long. Sometimes the best thing is to stop trying to force everything and just let things come to you.
Thank you for taking the time to read this article. As always, I hope that you have enjoyed. I look forward to seeing you on the next article.
